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What is He Thinking??: What Guys Want Us to Know About Dating, Love, and Marriage by Rebecca St. James

Thursday, September 15, 2011
In WHAT IS HE THINKING??, Rebecca interviews a range of men from high-profile types to the guys next door, men that every woman can relate to. Although the interviews focus on single guys ages 20-35, Rebecca also includes words of wisdom from older mentors she respects who have been successfully married for years, people like her dad, life coach, and pastor.

The men share their thoughts on topics like how women can respect themselves and the men in their lives, modesty, purity, taking it slow, friendship, letting guys lead, and more. This book gives them the floor to say what they would really like women to know.

The men respond candidly to questions such as:

+ What is the most attractive quality to you in a woman?
+ Is modesty truly attractive?
+ Is neediness a turn-off?
+ What do you find beautiful?
+ How can we be dependent on God for our identity, not on you?
+ How can we help you with boundaries physically?

Rebecca also discusses her own dating life, speaking openly about the single life, her struggle with loneliness, and her hope for the future. She challenges women to see the men in their lives as brothers in Christ and to trust God with their dating lives.

Good Reads Summary

This is a shockingly informative book for being so slim (approximately 151 pages).  There are 8 chapters, each dedicated to a certain quality that is commonly thought of in dating (flirting, body image, God and guys, etc...).  The author utilizes true stories about her own and others' dating experiences to help the reader understand her point.  She asks men questions and provides the reader with their honest answers.  In the novel, she is very persuasive concerning her views.  This book is very concerned with the topic of God in dating-so if the reader does not believe or care about this quality in a date, this book is not for him/her.  However, the author is not pushy with her views; they are given neutrally.  This book is definitely interesting, the reader is guaranteed to learn at least one thing that he/she did not know prior to picking up the book.  This book is recommended for religious men/women who enjoy nonfiction books.

4 Stars